Your Questions, Unfiltered Answers
Q: Isn't this just a toxic 'burn book' for angry exes?
A: We call it a survival guide. For too long, accountability in the dating world has been a one-way street. This isn’t about petty revenge; it’s about collective protection. It’s about preventing another woman from being lied to, manipulated, or hurt. We’re not a burn book; we are a warning system. Good men with nothing to hide have nothing to fear.
Q: Is this platform legal? What about defamation lawsuits?
A: We operate fully within the legal frameworks that protect free speech and user-generated content. The platform is designed for sharing personal experiences and opinions, which is a protected right. The truth is the ultimate defense. We encourage honest, experience-based posts and provide the secure platform for you to share your truth.
Q: Is this platform anti-man?
A: This platform is pro-woman. We are against deception, manipulation, and abuse. Our mission is to empower women with information to make safer dating choices. If a man is honest, respectful, and transparent, he will never end up on our platform. This is not about gender; it’s about conduct.
Q: Will he find out I posted about him? How is my identity protected?
A: Your anonymity is our number one priority. All posts are anonymous by default. We utilize state-of-the-art security to protect your identity and data. We will NEVER reveal your personal information, email, or IP address. To him, and to the world, you are a ghost. Your secret is safe with us.
Q: What if he somehow finds out and threatens me?
A: We have a zero-tolerance policy for any form of threat or intimidation. Given your anonymity on our platform, any threat would have to occur externally. We provide resources and guidance for dealing with online harassment and strongly encourage you to report any illegal threats to law enforcement immediately. More References : Check Video Link
Q: Why do you need to verify my account if I'm anonymous?
A: Verification is a simple process to ensure that our users are real women, not bots or malicious actors trying to disrupt the community. This crucial step protects the integrity of our platform and the validity of the information shared. Your verified identity is encrypted and kept separate from your anonymous posting profile.
Q: What if I'm wrong about him? Could I ruin an innocent person's reputation?
A: This platform is for sharing your truth – your personal experiences and verifiable facts you’ve discovered. It’s not for baseless accusations. If he lied to you, that’s a fact. If he made you feel unsafe, that’s your experience. A single post is one data point. A pattern of multiple women sharing similar experiences about the same man is undeniable evidence.
Q: How do I know the stories I'm reading are true?
A: We believe in the power of the collective. While we encourage factual posting, the true power of our platform is in identifying patterns. One story could be a misunderstanding. Five stories from five different women describing the exact same manipulative behavior? That’s a verified threat. Use our flagging system to report posts you believe to be false, and our moderation team will investigate.
Q: What kind of information am I allowed to post?
A: Share what you know. This includes screenshots of conversations (with your personal info redacted), direct quotes of lies he told, descriptions of his behavior, and links to public records (marriage licenses, criminal records, etc.). The more factual and experience-based, the more powerful your contribution.
Q: How do the background checks and safety tools work?
A: We partner with trusted data providers to give you access to public records databases. With basic information like a name and city, you can search for criminal history, sex offender status, marriage/divorce records, and more. It’s the information he conveniently ‘forgets’ to share.
Q: Why do some features require a subscription?
A: Your safety is priceless, but protecting it costs money. Maintaining a secure, anonymous platform and providing powerful data tools is expensive. A small subscription fee allows us to remain independent, ad-free, and constantly upgrade our security to protect you. It’s a small investment for invaluable peace of mind.
Q: What if I search for a guy and find nothing?
A: It could be a good sign, or it could mean you’re the first one to shine a light on him. Use our background check tools as a first step. If your experience with him raises red flags, you have the opportunity—and we’d say the responsibility—to be the first to post. You could be the one who saves the next woman.
Q: Can men join this platform or see the posts?
A: Absolutely not. This is a fortress built for women, by women. Our verification process is specifically designed to keep men out. They don’t get a seat at this table. The conversations happening here are not for their eyes, and we employ rigorous security to ensure it stays that way.
Q: What if a man creates a fake female profile to defend himself?
A: We are two steps ahead. Our multi-layered verification process is designed to detect and block such attempts. Furthermore, our community is incredibly skilled at spotting imposters. Accounts that exhibit suspicious behavior (like universally defending men or trying to invalidate women’s experiences) are quickly flagged and permanently banned.
Q: What if I post and he tells all his friends to attack me online?
A: How can he? He won’t know it was you. You are anonymous here. If he suspects it was you and starts an external harassment campaign, he is only proving your point about his character. We provide resources on how to handle online harassment and encourage you to document everything. His retaliation is just another red flag for the next woman.
Q: Instead of posting here, shouldn't I just move on with my life?
A: “Moving on” is what we’ve been told to do for centuries while they move on to their next victim. We believe moving on should also mean paving a safer path for the women who come after you. Your five-minute post could save another woman five years of pain. That’s not dwelling on the past; that’s building a better future.
Q: What if he made a mistake and has changed? Does he deserve to be listed here forever?
A: A “mistake” is forgetting to take out the trash. Cheating, lying about your identity, or having a history of violence is not a “mistake”—it’s a pattern of behavior. Our platform documents these patterns. If he has genuinely changed, his present and future actions will prove it. But his past actions are still relevant facts that other women have a right to know.
Q: Isn't this just 'cancel culture' for dating?
A: We call it ‘consequence culture’. For too long, men have been able to operate without consequences. We’re not “canceling” anyone; we are holding them accountable for their actions in the one area they seem to care about: their access to women. Think of this as a community-curated credit report on character.
Q: What about my privacy in screenshots? I don't want my photo or name exposed.
A: Your privacy is paramount. We provide easy-to-use tools within the app to blur or black out your own name, photo, and any identifying personal information from screenshots before you post. We have strict guidelines requiring that you redact your own info. Your story is the focus, not your identity.
Q: How do I write an effective post that actually helps people?
A: Be factual and specific. Instead of “He’s a jerk,” write “He told me he was single, but I found his wedding photos on his sister’s Facebook page.” Include dates if you can, share screenshots (with your info redacted), and describe the behavior. The more objective evidence you provide, the more undeniable your story becomes.
Q: Can I delete my post later if I reconcile with him or change my mind?
A: Yes, you have full control over the content you create. You can edit or permanently delete your posts at any time through your account dashboard.
Q: What happens if I report a post for being false?
A: When a post is flagged by the community, it enters a moderation queue. Our team reviews the post and the reporter’s claims. While we lean towards protecting free expression of experience, posts that contain clear doxxing of private information, illegal threats, or are proven to be maliciously false will be removed.
Q: Do you have actual success stories of women being protected?
A: Daily. We receive messages every day from women who were about to go on a date, move in with someone, or even accept a proposal before doing a quick search on our platform. They find stories that mirror their own doubts, uncovering everything from secret families to histories of financial fraud. These aren’t just success stories; they are lives and futures saved.
Q: What if I see a post about a man I know, and I've had a positive experience with him?
A: Your experience is also valid. However, remember that abusers are often masters of manipulation and can appear charming and kind to some while victimizing others. A man being good to you doesn’t invalidate another woman’s experience of him being harmful to her. The platform is here to showcase all patterns of behavior, not just the ones you’ve seen.
Q: I'm worried this will make me too paranoid to date.
A: This platform isn’t designed to make you paranoid; it’s designed to make you powerful. It replaces fear and uncertainty with facts and data. Knowing the truth doesn’t make you paranoid—it makes you prepared. It allows you to enter the dating world with your eyes wide open, not clouded by hope and his lies.
Q: What if he's a public figure or famous? Can I still post about him?
A: Especially if he is. Power and influence are often used to silence women. We believe in holding everyone accountable, regardless of their status or follower count. The same rules of anonymity and fact-based posting apply. Your voice is just as important, if not more so, in these situations.
